This is part of a series of blogs from Noble campus representatives to give a deeper look at campus life.
‘Tis the season for laughter, family, and joy! Right? Not always! Traditionally, the holidays are a time of year filled with family visits, delicious food, and connecting with friends. However, the holidays are not the happiest of times for some. Instead, they are filled with anxiety, grief, and longing, making this time of year difficult. This can be the case whether you are 12, 32, or 72 years old. Feelings of anxiety and grief know no age. So, what can you do to feel better? Cynthia Martinez, one of the social workers at Noble Street College Prep, chimes in and gives some advice on managing your emotions through the holidays.
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Cynthia Martinez, one of Noble Street's social workers, in her office.
Q: If students are feeling emotional over the holidays, what are some suggestions you advise for them to feel better?
Be mindful of your expectations for you and others. Sometimes expecting family to be or respond a certain way sets us up for failure. Instead, go into family gatherings or conversations assuming best intentions. Maybe the wording your tia chose to talk about a topic doesn’t sit well. So, instead, kindly state that you aren’t comfortable with how they said something. You can practice your responses prior to your gathering so that you are not caught off guard (because then your feelings lead the way). Still don’t feel comfortable? Sometimes, removing yourself from a conversation or a situation works out best. We don’t want our holidays to be filled with anger and hurt, so protecting our space should come first.
Q: How can you avoid conflict with your family?
Plan ahead! We know our triggers and that one family member that knows them too. Again, plan your responses and leave space for yourself if need be.
Q: Any other advice you have to have an emotionally safe holiday?
Think about your mental health. Prioritize your mental health during the holidays. Your mental health should be more important than any gifts or family members. Plan ahead and stay the course. Count your blessings! You can do that by writing down a list of things you are thankful for. Lastly, you can prioritize yourself with self-care. This can look like watching your favorite show, eating your favorite dessert, or taking a nap! Whatever gives you the most joy and peace, do it!
Finally, if your emotions get the best of you there’s always help! There are a number of resources available to you:
- TextForHelp – a 24/7 text hotline where you can access a licensed mental health professional. Noble Schools’ TextForHelp number is 1-844-970-1499.
- SAFE2HELP – a 24-hour mental health hotline for Illinois students
- Calling 988, the National Suicide Prevention and Life Crisis Hotline
- Work with Noble’s partner Care Solace to access mental healthcare services
We wish everyone a joyous winter break filled with positive vibes and good health!
